the one thing that helped me when i was in a shoplifting mode, was knowing that someone cared more about ME than the crime, or the disfunction. my T at the time was alarmed at what getting caught might do to my mental health, more than WHY i would do such a thing....

now i find that i hang on to a spiritual belief system, morality or whatever, to help me pay what's owed. that is the gift i give myself~