Former T told me -- when I specifically asked -- that she believed I was borderline (had borderline traits was how she tried to soften it).

I didn't mind the borderline diagnosis but suddenly, so much of the weirdness with which she'd behaved towards me made sense (or so I thought) -- it's like she always treated me like I was either going to lose it completely or I was totally repressed i.e., nothing I could do / say was non-pathological.

If I needed any more impetus to terminate with her, that was it -- I'll admit it really hurt to think that she's not bothered telling me something so significant in the year plus I'd been with her.