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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
Maybe this is midlife crisis I don't know.
I'm married, settled life, nothing fancy but comfortable, our son is grown now. I work and volunteer, my job is routine, heavy physically (I am fit), but a regular wage. Volunteering is nice (can sometimes be sad because of declining health of people I volunteer with).
I love my husband, things haven't always been easy but he's a good guy. He's older than me and I have always been aware my old age will be alone because of this.
Happiest days of both our lives were when son was little and we had such fun times, now he is grown that is over.
Sometimes life feels so joyless like the best bits are over and nothing to look forward to. I don't think this is depression (was treated earlier this year), rather more a rational awareness. How do I reconcile myself to the fact the best bits are over? My overwhelming mode is flat and tired.
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I have struggled with similar issues. And I have had a mid-life crisis...which became a mental health crisis. When I am nostalgic (which is a grief over lost times), I ground myself in the moment. Think about it. What made your past living so meaningful? Could it be that you placed a lot of meaning and focused presence into the moment with your child? I'm honestly looking forward to the place you're in. My children are 17 and 19. My wife and I are almost done building our future love nest. I'll get my wife back! It will be just me and my most favorite person in the world. My advice is to take notice and do some little thing that you don't usually do. Go buy a flower and tuck it into your hair. Try an ice cream flavor that you've been afraid to try. It really doesn't take much.
This doesn't have to become a mid-life crisis.
