I don't think you will bring your parents around to your way of thinking. I think that's something that has to happen with time.

Just know that they went through the same thing that you are as far as breaking away from their parents. I guarantee it.

It's very possible to respect and disagree simultaneously. There's a whole bunch of nodding and "I understand-ing" that goes on in my life, with my own parents. But that's all it is. I DO understand their points of view. I simply don't agree with them.

I think that you must be terribly frustrated with your efforts to get them to understand how you feel....

I wish I could help...