Hello, I'm new here.

I'm having a major issue in my marriage right now, as the title infers. My husband and I have been married 12 years and have 2 children. Over the weekend, my husband told me these things:

1) He doesn't want to be in a relationship

2) He believes I deserve better and should be on the lookout for a new guy who would treat me the way I deserve.

3) He wants to have sex with other women, not relationships, just sex. But also, not just sex. As in, he doesn't want to meet a girl at the bar and have a quickie then go home. He wants to take her to a place where they can have an entire evening of sex and "hanging out." After that he wants to just leave the woman behind, not be involved with her further.

He doesn't have a specific woman in mind, he just wants to find women who want to engage in this type of sex and then go their separate ways, no strings attached.

I'm not okay with this. I think he's delusional to even think it's possible. I told him that not only does it hurt badly that he wants to have sex with other women to begin with, but the way he wants to do it just makes it 100x worse.

My questions are:

1) Is that really how a one night stand works? I always thought it was one time and done.

2) That's intimacy, not sex, right? Even though he can just walk away from someone like that after really getting to know them and spending a whole evening together, I don't know how many women are just okay with never seeing a guy again.

On top of this, over the weekend I was crying a lot. He spent a lot of time with me and we talked it over a lot. But now, when I came home from work and it all came back and I started crying again, he acted annoyed. He told me to stop thinking about it. But I can't! I told him I'm scared and he told me to stop.

I think he's annoyed because I told him I don't want him to do it.

Now, I know this will probably end in divorce one way or another.... either because he goes out and does this and I can't handle that or because he doesn't go and do it and grows to resent me.

It's a cake and eat it too situation for him. He wants his wife to just let him do whatever he wants but I can't. Emotionally and mentally I can't. Also, I know that if he's out doing this with other women, it could be addicting. The fun of a brand new partner however often, why pay attention to the old rag of a wife at home?

I guess the point is, if I know if what he wants is way off the charts for what's most likely, maybe I'll feel better enough to function.... at least until things get worse....