Quote:
|
As an Asian daughter though, I have a binding obligation to my elders and cannot disagree with what my parents say.
|
This is the central issue. You are going to have to decide: do you continue being the dutiful daughter and allowing your parents to continue to direct your life--or do you break free of that and make your own choices, come what may?
Right now: You do not embrace being the dutiful, obedient daughter. You
resent it--but you still do it.
If you break free, you will no longer have resentment, but you will experience loss, dissonance, perhaps/probably shame from them. Which is better: fulfilling your duty while consumed with resentment, or freeing yourself and experiencing loss (as well as gain in being free and having the man of your dreams)? This is what you must decide.
Quote:
|
I want to reassure him that I would never give up on him, but with the way that I can never convince my parents of anything, I don't know if I can really promise my resolve to fight for him.
|
You want your freedom but you want it with your parents' approval. I don't believe that this will happen. Your parents are not going to approve of your boyfriend or of your desire to be an artist. If you are going to have one or the other or both of these, I believe that in all likelihood you will need to go against the wishes of your parents.
It isn't an issue of being able to communicate better--don't blame yourself like that. They understand what you want. They just don't want it for you.
Have you seen the film
Eat Drink Man Woman? If not, I urge you to see it. The film is about the relationships of three Chinese daughters with their father. Each daughter takes a different approach to choosing between freedom on the one hand and dutiful daughterhood on the other.
(((((connect.the.stars)))))