I'm so sorry you're feeling the way you are here, trying to get some insight and help. And you're absolutely right, I've never experienced your situation, so I don't know.......I don't have children either so I don't know.

I guess those of us who have told you to leave see that as the only out, being on the outside of the situation. I can only speak from what I think I'd do. I've left volitale relationships in the past, even a husband, but there were no kids, and I had help from friends and family.

I can't possibly begin to understand your pain in this situation. I think I just wish I had a solution....

Any chance at all that if you talk to him and tell him a divorce would be best for both of you, that he'd leave? And leave you there with all your stuff and still have a role with the kids?