You... it's not that your problem is a joke; it's that most of us seem to be of the opinion that the 'problem' you started this thread with seems so minor compared to the big, big problems going on in your marriage.

No, it's not easy to just walk away from a marriage, especially when kids are involved. I've had many people, in real life and here at PC, give me the same advice, often tritely, that I should "just" leave my husband. In my case, I love my husband to pieces and have never had any desire to leave him, but it's easy for people to advise that when they're only hearing the complaints.

All I, at least, meant to say is that having a one night stand will complicate your already complicated life in ways that I don't believe you are anticipating. I'm no angel either, but I do know that extra-marital affairs in either direction are inevitably and irreversibly damaging to everyone involved.