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Originally Posted by scaredandconfused
I don't personally struggle with this, so I don't have an understanding of how hard it is to resist these urges. My "advice" is to keep it in your pants, because mania isn't a good excuse for cheating, imo. Your wife has stayed with you when most others wouldn't have stayed...please don't blow it for a few moments of fun with somebody random.
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Chastity belt? I've made it almost 6 years. And my wife and I don't have sex anymore. Maybe 3-4 times since 2011. But I haven't had mania much of that time. Put it into the category of addiction and think of it that way. It's like I have too different brains. One is 100% committed to fidelity and my marriage, and the other has no idea about it. My policy right now is if I'm struggling with manic symptoms, I shut up and shut in and ride the storm. It's tricky. I have to pass her office every time I leave my office.
My previous crush ended up being easy to squelch. She was a fellow musician and we were working on a recital together. I cancelled the recital. Not worth it. But I don't have that option with this gal. You wouldn't think this would be so hard, but unless you've experienced this level of hypersexuality and impulses, it's hard to grasp.
You're right. MI isn't the only cause of infidelity for someone who is bipolar. I could cheat for all of the typical reasons. But, believe or not, I'm very happy with my marriage. We are so close in many other ways...perhaps a little on the platonic side, but I have more than many will ever have.