Thanks Tomi and Bebop...

Oh, treatment is out of the question. He won't even consider it. Everyone involved except my brother is in agreement about it.

I'm still having a very hard time with the "letting him know how I feel" conversation. Since I arrived on Saturday, I can't get any conversation out of him whatsoever. He can't hear me when I talk, and even when he does hear me, he doesn't understand what I'm saying. I asked him if he could tell me funny stories about his childhood and he said he doesn't have any. I tried to indirectly engage him in a conversation about his grandchild, because in the 10 weeks that he has known about my pregnancy, he has never once shown interest in it. So, last night at dinner, I asked him if my mom had particularly liked or disliked any foods when she had been pregnant with me/my brother. He got annoyed and said "why do you think I'd remember that?". Oops. Sore subject, I guess. I know that he had been a very involved and excited dad, so I'm sure he used to know. Maybe it's hard for him to accept that his memory is shot. Or maybe he doesn't want to think about a grandchild that he'll never know. I don't know. At this point, I think I've given up the utopian concept of doing any bonding with him from this point forward. I hope I'm not being premature or lazy by doing that. It just seems to hurt me more than it helps me, and my attempts seem to irritate him. He seems to appreciate being fed more than talking to me.

That doesn't bother me, to be truthful - the pressure of feeling like I'm supposed to have some kind of emotional relationship breakthrough feels worse, right now. Am I going to later regret feeling this way right now? Am I just being lazy?