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Originally Posted by ~Christina
Bipolar , even screaming mania is never a freebie for infidelity.
Even if you use condoms which is a valid concern if your ready to cheat ....you can still transmit STD's to your wife, and not all can be cured with medication.
Your lucky your wife was able to stay married after your cheating in the past, she is far stronger and forgiving than I .
I'm not bashing you , well maybe. My first husband cheated so I'm very direct when it comes to this nonsense.
If you go manic and think about cheating .... Why not see your Pdoc and halt the mania before you make a huge mistake that could have life long health effects on you and your wife.
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I am lucky to be married, no doubt. Her reason for staying is the "in sickness and in health" vow. But I only get one shot on that one. I'm married now on the condition that I stick to my treatment 100% (which I have done), I not have any sort of private relationship with a woman (no texts, pm's, no coffee...which I have done). If you send me a message you'll get a very polite "no pms please", in fact it's in my signature for this site. And absolutely no infidelity of any sort. The marriage is over with any one of these conditions being broken. I think it's reasonable. A person has to protect themselves. It's not a matter of in sickness or in health, especially if I resist my treatment.
I've been working with my pdoc all year with meds to fix this. It's been years since I had this problem. It will go away when the mania goes away...100%.
I'm hoping to find someone else on this site who understands what I'm talking about. You cannot understand unless you've experienced this awful problem. Do you think I want to wreak havoc on my marriage for a few thrills? I'd rather be celibate for the rest of my life then cheat on my wife again.
FYI, there is a HUGE difference between infidelity and BIPOLAR infidelity. It doesn't hurt any less, but it's different. The only way to control any bipolar symptoms is professional care, which I am receiving.
here are some resources about what bipolar infidelity is.
Bipolar Infidelity: Discover Causes, Cures and Scary Statistics | Bipolar Lives
here's a personal story from Bipolar Wife that nails it.
The Bipolar Wife: Infidelity ? A Painful Consequence of Mania | Adventures of a Bipolar Mom
None of this changes the fact that it hurts marriages. It hurts the spouses of bipolars and the bipolar herself/himself. I am torn to shreds about what I did before my treatment. I'm not sure my wife will ever fully heal from that betrayal. I take responsibility for it by doing EVERYTHING in my power to stay well. Including seeking advice from other people who have been through this.