Well, she got married. The wedding was lovely and funded by many people including myself. In one week, she has gotten money from her uncle and again from me. She knows that my well is dry. She used to be a manager of her department, something she worked years to be. She took off so much for "illnesses", they demoted her and gave her job to someone else. She works about 20 hours a week now. Not my Problem anymore. I will do anything I can for her kids. But lack of planning on her part does not constitute an emergency on my part. Not any longer. I have more (many more) issues to deal with other than her. Thanks.