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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote
Hypersexuality can be very difficult to deal with.
Bipolar illness, hypersexuality (and marriage) is a huge topic to try to cover.
You have done a great job of tackling the issues at hand.
I am very guarded, most of the time, so I don't get caught up in something and break trust with my husband. We are both BP-II. We have both had moments of getting too close to cheating while still committed to one another. Seems impossible to get into something with someone else while still committed, but it can all happen so quickly and can catch us off guard.
We both choose to be careful and guard against situations which may feed into infidelity.
That said, it's easy to understand how infidelity can occur.
In cases when bipolar illness has truly played a part, judgment does not help anyone. Understanding the illness and the many complexities involved can help to heal wounds and can help with future prevention (possibly).
I feel very fortunate. I have had good fortune on my side when I've been, otherwise, in deep trouble.
Self-forgiveness is important, too.
WC |
Self forgiveness is hard. My wife was the victim. she is working on forgiving me and I a making a living amends. What's hard to explain ....REALLY hard to explain is that people with MI are victims of their own illness sometimes. When I came to. I was horrified at what had happened....traumatized. That couldn't have been me. And because it's hard to understand, I feel a weird sort of discomfort in forgiving myself. Like, I made my bed, now I have to lie in it.