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Originally Posted by kecanoe
From what I have heard and observed, BPD clients are often seen as needy and as needing to have very strong, rigid, distanced boundaries. In general it is assumed that they need DBT rather than talk therapy, and that the last thing a t wants is to have the client get attached. But of course insecure attachment is really common with BPD. So I have no clue why that is a standard, except that the theory is that allowing a BPD client to become attached is inviting things like stalking and obsession with the t. I am not a treatment provider, nor do I have that diagnosis so I am speaking from hearsay and I don't know that this shift if treatment is a good or bad thing, other than the clients seem to suffer when the t is not receptive to the attachment.
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I was diagnosed with bpd. My T allowed texts and emails. I didn't agree with my diagnosis 100%. When i saw that my T kept a distance and stopped emailing and texting I then started distancing myself. Since I was young I've never like to be where I'm not wanted and will remove myself quickly from the scenario in order to make the other person comfortable and let them do their thing. Then because she labeled me with bpd I had to make sure that I kept an extra distance in all ways. I only saw her once a week and if I thought that I was getting on nerves or she seemed disinterested I would cancel in order to give her breathing room. They was the end result. I didn't want to be attached and I didn't stalk her or obsessed over her. I just wanted to be treated like a normal person.