This would also bother me. My husband says he'd rather have a joint than a beer any time. It is however illegal in this state so he does not partake. He has too much to lose, his job does random drug testing. And prior to that he was in the military.

I'd lived a very sheltered life where drugs were concerned, my father was a police officer so the people that used drugs tended to stay away from me. I was not aware that my husband had done these drugs when we started dating, and frankly had I known I would not have dated him. And I would have missed out on a truly wonderful husband and father.

I don't know how I would feel if they legalized pot and he choose to smoke it then. I think the stigma attached to it, for me at least, is that it is illegal and therefore bad.

We also have children, so that is another reason why he would not partake at this point in his life.

I understand your point of view and my first instinct is to tell you that this is not the relationship for you, you're believes are too different. But then as I mentioned before, had I followed this advice I wouldn't have the man in my life now.