Hello tired_soul: Well... at the risk of stating the obvious... I'll just observe that you can't change the way your bf is. You can only change yourself, to whatever extent that is needed, if any. So, from my perspective, I think what you can do here is to take a good look at your own situation (you mentioned you're always pissed off about something when the two of you are not together.) See if there is anything you can do to improve circumstances. And beyond that, I think you simply have to decide if, given the type of person your bf is, you can handle staying in the relationship.

I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

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