basically numbers one and two are the same as saying he wants a divorce without saying the D word, I didn't use the D word with my ex, I told him I didn't want to be married anymore. (we tried marriage counseling 5 times in 8 years)

and I agree, he probably is already cheating.

I can see that as this is sort of the situation my parents were in. they never got divorced, the one time they came close my dad realized he couldn't afford to live separately (my mom was a stay at home mom, they married in the early 1960s, he would have been paying dearly in alimony). my mom didn't exactly allow it but my dad cheated continuously for at least 40 years and didn't bother to hide it from her.

I'm really sorry you are in this situation, I agree you need to get yourself to a lawyer..he may already have done so.

oh and him being annoyed? he thinks he's already comforted you the first time and now he thinks he's being guilted by your tears, as if you should be over it and facing facts.

it sucks, it's not fair but this is not someone who has your best interests at heart, please try to pull yourself together and take care of yourself and your child.