Well, there are different ways and stages of grief. I think those who think that there is only one way to grieve are fooling themselves.

I know as a kid, I did not bawl at my mom's dad's funeral--I was sad, but I was hardly ever around him. Then, with my dad's dad, I bawled my heart out. He lived next door, let us play in his house, etc.

I dont think it is so much worrying that you havent grieved in that way that someone wants you too...I think everyone has different ways of dealing with what is a very intense and painful situation.