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Originally Posted by ~Christina
In recent months this is the 3 rd job that seems your having the same exact problem in each one.
I'm not being rude but I think you need to look into your own possible issues. You also have per your threads.... major issues in your marriage.
I was in a dark place about 8 or so years ago , I felt attacked from all sides about any and everything, I did lots of self reflection and worked with a Therapist.... I was the one that had problems communicating with family and friends.
I hope you find a way to navigate life in calmer waters than your currently fighting going upstream.
Life truly is what you make of it.
Find some peace and happiness.
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Well, first of all, I have noticed that a lot of people at work tend to be very social and outgoing. I'm not an extrovert apparently. I do try to be polite and talk to people, but with some people, they sometimes think I'm "weird", "snotty", or that I don't like them just because I don't talk to them all the time or tell them about my personal life.
That's their problem, not mine. Also, a lot of people have already stated that bullies always target the loners and shy people at work. So that is another issue that I had. I did not try to make friends at work to protect myself. Big mistake. I'm trying to make allies and work buddies who will have my back if I need their help. I will probably not be bullied if I'm not seen as being a weak and easy target. I didn't speak up right away when I was bullied. I should have.
I also should've been more careful at my last jobs and should have stayed away from the girls who were mean and unfriendly. I kept on being nice to most of them which was pointless.
It's not my fault if some people have issues with my personality. I'm a nice person. If they end up hating me for being different or not being a chatterbox, then that's their problem, not mine. It sounds like I'm being blamed for the problems that I encountered. That's not fair at all.
I had my stuff stolen at one job. I should've been more careful. It's not my fault that I tend to attract asshole bullies and weirdos. So please stop acting like I'm the one at fault here. I know that I made some mistakes here and there, but I won't make them again. I've just had some bad luck at the last few places.
Haven't any of you ever worked at a job to where it wasn't a good fit for you, or the boss or your coworkers were difficult to work with and no matter what you did, how hard you worked, or how nice you tried to be, it made no difference in their attitude towards you at all?
It doesn't sound like it. Consider yourself lucky. And I refuse to kiss anyone's *** or act fake to be liked and accepted. I am who I am. I don't like playing office politics. I'm nice, honest, hard working, and I don't bother anyone. That should be good enough for other people.
Anyways, sorry if I come across as being rude here, but I'm sick of being blamed for things that are out of my control. I can't make everyone like me or whatever. All I can do is try my best. And I mostly did just that. Sorry to hear about those dark days. I hope that you're doing better now.
Anyone who has NOT been bullied at work, school, or anywhere else is very lucky and people who have never been a victim have a very hard time understanding those of us who have been bullied it seems like. It almost sounds like some people on here think that we did something wrong and that we somehow provoked other people or that we're angry, or that we're wrong to be upset at being bullied and that we should just let things go.
Please don't judge me when you have no idea of the hell I have put up with for years.