My ex T was contacted today by new T to get information. I don't think new T has any preconceived ideas about ex T, but I get the feeling ex T is feeling protective and senses she will be judged. She is being asked to describe our therapy together (issues, progress, obstacles etc) and I can see why it is hard for her to explain it. In some ways we didn't make much progress at all, due to my issues and ongoing contact with perpetrators. But that was my fault, not hers.
I am feeling protective of her too. Despite not making a ton of progress in some ways, I learned to have compassion for myselves with her, and learned to trust and be loved.