LuLu,

I'll be honest with you and tell you that I used to smoke pot a little more than 20 yrs. ago (41 now). did so because i could get a high without a hangover or vomiting. i'm not proud of it but know what to look for if my son starts using. i have absolutely no desire to touch it today. i can say that i wasn't a big user. only did it on the weekends.... weekend warrior. really did it in defiance of my mother.

if marijuana use is against your values and your boyfriend is using, it may be a good idea to break up. if i were in your place, i think that i would just end up resenting him for it. i don't know how often he is using but he may begin to use often with his pot smoking friends. given your beliefs, i can't see that you would ever tag along with him when he and his friends are going to use. i know that i wouldn't.

everyone has faults. i think it comes down to which faults you can live with and which that you can't. seems like marijuana use is strongly against your core values. my advice (for what it is worth), save yourself the heartache and move on.

as a side note, he never needs marijuana. that is a pure excuse. i never needed it; i just wanted it. came a time where i grew up and turned away from it easily. actually, the last time i did it, i didn't find it the least bit fun and was completely ashamed of myself, especially as i let so-called friends talk me into it.

good luck. i hope that you make a decision you feel good about.