I must concur with everything lolagrace said.

We aren't trying to make you feel bad. We are trying to help you shift your perspective so you can be successful in the workplace. But hey, if you want to continue to be miserable, have at it.

I think you use the term bully for anyone who says anything to you that you don't like.

I've watched you with three different jobs now complain about the same issues. However when you describe what was actually done, it does not sound like bullying to me. And it does not sound like anything out of the ordinary in regards to a workplace. Workplaces are filled with lots of different personality types. You have to learn to work with them all. No work place is going to be perfect.

On another note, I would be wary of the employee who has befriended you and is saying bad things about the employer to you. Someone who is willing to bad mouth the employer to you when you've been there a week is a gossip and is not to be trusted. She may lead you astray and get you in trouble. Just a warning there.

Good luck.

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