I don't want to hijack Rhapsody's thread, but a few of us feel strongly that non-selfish men need to be represented. I'd like to start a thread where we can appreciate men in our lives. I'll begin...

(thinking... thinking... drawing a blank... thinking... -- hahahaha!)

Ok, well let's start with my husband. He has his selfish moments, sure, but then again so do I. He takes very good care of me emotionally and I never doubt where my place is in his heart. I have complete confidence that he'll put our child first, which makes me really happy. I have never once heard him say anything bad about another person - he cares greatly about people's feelings.

My ex-husband, despite dumping me like a hot potato at the end, also was very unselfish. He would go to the ends of the earth for the people he cared about, and always found something good about any person he encountered, no matter how annoying I found them to be.

I also know that my brother would throw himself in front of a speeding train for me.

And it should not go unmentioned that most of the men on this board are truly life-savers. There aren't many men who participate at PC, but those who do are quite generous, thoughtful, considerate, and compassionate.

I guess I am not a person who likes to compare genders, races, ethnic groups, etc. I am a woman who works in a man's world, but I have never once felt discriminated against or limited by my gender -- it has truly been a non-issue. 99% of the men I know have given me their full respect and I know that I hold credibility with them. Just thinking about my current project, I know that I am one of the team and that I can count on the men on my team to back me up and help me if I need it.

I'm sad for the women in the world who have had bad experiences with the selfish men out there. I believe you, and I do know that selfish and cruel men do exist, as do selfish and cruel women. My heart goes out to any human, female or male, who has been badly hurt by someone of the other gender and subsequently fears or resents that gender.

But in general, hooray for men... I think most of them are terrific, and the world would be an unbalanced place without them.