For what it's worth you are expected to work at work and not socialize. You are there for a paycheck, not to laugh and chat with friends. The sooner you realize this, the better. If you want to socialize, your job should not be the first place you look. At the end of the day the paycheck is what is important not the gossip. That being said, Lola is on to something. If you talk to coworkers with the same attitude and judgement you use here, I don't really blame them for wanting to keep you at arm's length. Do you want to see a change in your coworker's attitudes towards you? Be the change you want to see. If you want people to be friendly and approachable, you need to be the same way. If you are snotty and judgmental then you'll receive the same back, and in spades. Just a thought to keep in mind.