Hello
This is my first time posting here, I usually post on the psychotherapy forum. So here is my issue; I've been with my partner for over three years. We have had issues which caused us to separate for about four months. We've been back together since last December, living together. Our main issues are my partner still struggles with my friendship with my ex. I would like to add that my ex and I have a healthy platonic friendship, neither of us would ever want to be together again romantically because we both know that we are much better as good friends, we're at peace. Although my partner still struggled with this she is much more accepting about it then she was prior to our breakup. But I know she still has a hard time but has somewhat accepted it because she knew that I would not choose. I wasn't going to be put in that position.
So here we are today, we get along good for the most part but there are still struggles. I realize relationships are about compromise and it's give and take. My partner would love to get married, I would too but I'm not sure that we are ready, and she puts no pressure on me whatsoever.
This is a good woman. She works hard and has good morals. There are some red flags. Of course the issue of my friendship with my ex being one of them and I realized tonight that when we spend a lot of time together we start to argue. When we both are at work all day and just have our weekends together we do pretty good. So , my question is... do we have too many challenges to consider marriage? I'm wondering what some of you would do.. I just don't feel marriage is something that we should consider at the moment.. maybe down the road, I just don't know.. I was hoping after almost four years I'd have more clarity.. thanks in advance!!