[QUOTE=Bill3;5407122]To my mind, you already have an answer, from your heart:

And also:
Hope or no hope, you don't have the clarity you need, the clarity that imo a person should have before marrying.

You mentioned the red flags of the concern about your ex and the concern about arguing. What else gives you pause about marriage

It's her insecurities, her moodiness, and while she does have some health issues it feels like she focuses on them too much.. she often sees the glass as half empty instead of half full.