You wanna look cool, try to stay that way. Everybody's scared and has chip on their shoulder, so people around you may rub you wrong. I don't know about 12 steps, it's just too many of them. The inner nihilist, if you got any, that needs to be dealt with. You could try to size 'em up and down, stare it down and eventually, you may be siding with the one with a vision.