This is a brief outline of my current situation. My partner and I have been together for 17 years almost. Basically, he is a loving, caring, generous man. However, if anything I do or say upsets him, he just shuts down and leaves. I am now going through the fourth time this has happened and don't want to go through this rejection again, it's so soul destroying. He heard me saying to a freind that I didn't like the car he had bought me. It was true, I said it in a positive way before to him. I thanked him for it but said I found it a bit to powerful for me and was wary of driving it, but said I would try. He said he understood and would keep it for himself and get me another, which I said he didn't need to. He also heard me telling this freind that we no longer have sex as he is unable to get an erection because of statins he takes for high cholesterol. Next thing I get a text saying he heard what I said and that it was over between us. Rather than discuss things, he just closes down for a while while I am left suffering. When he does eventually respond, he's very cold and comes up with other reasons why he left, that we haven't been getting on, things aren't right etc., which is bizarre, because apart from not having sex, we are very happy with each other. It's been three months since he left. The longest has been four. Then, about a month ago, he asked me to pop round to his office. When I got there, he surprised me with a lovely little min convertible that I'd always wanted. He looked dreadful, hair outgrown, unshaven and tired. I voiced my concerns, but he wouldn't listen. I messaged hi me (he won't answer his phone) to say I loved him and that I know he loves me, can't we just sort this, he said '"so there is no confusion in your mind, I won't be coming back". I am now left with paying the rent and bills, he did support me for the first couple of months, but has stopped. I know he had a difficult childhood, he was never allowed to speak up for himself or answe back and I fear there was mor abide, either mentally or physically that went on, but he won't tell me. What do you think of this situation?