this sounds very hard to be left like this in the "not knowing". I would be very frustrated. Is this how you imagined this session to go or had you planned it out before hand?
I don't see anything wrong with giving some reassurance when you need it. Do you feel this style of therapy is meeting your needs? I get the whole trying to empower the client into a place where they can contain their own emotions but we all know what happened years ago when babies were left crying for hours, alone and distressed they learned not to ask for anything because no one would come to their rescue. We all need to be held when we are feeling vulnerable and fragile, it's a basic human need to feel loved and have a sense of belonging. Maybe I am way off base here but I really feel for you