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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
 this sounds very hard to be left like this in the "not knowing". I would be very frustrated. Is this how you imagined this session to go or had you planned it out before hand?
I don't see anything wrong with giving some reassurance when you need it. Do you feel this style of therapy is meeting your needs? I get the whole trying to empower the client into a place where they can contain their own emotions but we all know what happened years ago when babies were left crying for hours, alone and distressed they learned not to ask for anything because no one would come to their rescue. We all need to be held when we are feeling vulnerable and fragile, it's a basic human need to feel loved and have a sense of belonging. Maybe I am way off base here but I really feel for you  |
I'm not sure how I planned for the session to go but I didn't think I would bring up the transitional object topic. I brought it towards the end of the session with only 15 mins left so that's why T and I will continue the discussion next week. It is frustrating though especially now that I realise I have such mixed feelings about it.
In regards to the lack of reassurance from T, I didn't actually ask her for any and with my T if I don't ask something outright then I probably won't get it. I did ask her once before when I felt like I was "failing therapy" and she said something like "nothing is really good or bad in therapy, it is all just information that will bring us closer to reaching an insight". I guess that was reassuring but it wasn't quite what I had in mind. I found this article which kind of explains why T's don't like to give reassurance:
https://lifeinabind.com/tag/seeking-...ce-in-therapy/
I really don't like feeling badly towards T; it doesn't mesh well with the idealised image I have of her which for reasons I'm not sure of is important to me
