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9 Best Ways to Support Someone with Depression
By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
Among the most frustrating and frightening aspects of depression is that it is usually beyond the
direct control of those suffering with it
and of those witnessing it.
Please make yourself at home, and do remember to take care of yourself.
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My dog
mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.