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Old Dec 08, 2016, 10:38 PM
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((((Rosie)))))

Welcome to Psych Central, but I'm sorry that you're struggling with guilt and self-blame. I can relate to that as well. I like to think that most parents in this world (regardless of their mental health) struggle with these concepts from time to time. None of us are perfect, as parents, and we *all* make mistakes. Try to remind yourself of that little factoid whenever you begin kicking yourself really hard, okay?

My diagnosis of BPD came when my 2 girls were around 3-4 years old. I REALLY struggled in those years, and I kicked myself all over for being so emotional. I explained the situation to them often, and they quickly forgave me. But, yeah, I had a hard time forgiving myself for having such a tough time "loosening up".

Anyway: my girls are 14 and 12 y.o. now. Growing up so fast! They're also in pretty good emotional shape. Try not to worry too much. As long as your child/ren sees that you care and take the time to apologize and explain that you were feeling pretty emotional. You may go on to say that you're working on techniques to help you work through your emotions in a healthier way too. That's good ~ they can appreciate that!

Gentle hugs sent your way.
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