Thanks for the replies.
I sent him a text that night and told him he was out of line and I won't stand for him acting like in front of our daughter or to me. I explained that my life is mine just like his is his and ive expressed no interest so at least give me the same respect.

He replied with some arsy message saying he felt threatened by my text to him?

Anyway, ive ignored it now. I'm worried he's trying to provoke me to get some sort of reaction and use it against me. I feel i acted correctly to the situation

BILL - Christmas plans have been arranged for some time now and I wouldn't change plans now or limited her time with her dad. I always feel i bend over backwards to fit him into her life as he is quite unreliable.

I'm scared to see him again now