I am sorry you are struggling with this. Of course your wife is hurt and I'm sure you understand this. Often times bad behaviors escalate, so just because you were not meeting them now, doesn't mean you won't get increasingly more brave. Or perhaps you won't but it's not healthy for your wife or your child.

Netflix has some good documentaries on the Thailand sex trade. Perhaps if you watched what these girls actually go through and how they are abused and manipulated and given intentional drug addictions, you will feel different about the whole thing? Especially now since you have a daughter? Also, look up the statistics of STD's in the Thailand sex trade. Keep yourself safe.

I worked for a large US company that also has ties in Thailand. The owner would throw big mandatory meetings and brag about sending his son to Thailand to taste the ladies in the sex trade. I felt abused just listening to him. It's a sad, sad thing and these poor girls live such a sad and abusive life. Many are kidnapoed and put in the trade while they are still young children.

Please get some counseling for your sake, your wife and especially your daughter. You sound like a reasonable person and you need help right now. You deserve help and so does your family. (((Hugs to you, your family and all those poor Thai girls)))