Hello Buttja: Since this is your first post here on PC... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

Yes, revealing your partner's ED problem was a bit of, shall we say, too much information? Beyond that, I recall reading in our local newspaper recently (in one of those advice columns) where the writer talked about how she considers "the silent treatment" to be emotional violence. And, from what you wrote, you've been receiving a giant-sized portion of the silent treatment extending out for months at a time. So from that perspective, if the silent treatment is emotional violence, then you've received more than your share... sadly.

I used to know a guy who was fond of saying: "If you want to know which way the bullet is going, look down the barrel of the gun." If you re-read what you've written here, you will see what you more than likely have to look forward to if, in some way, you manage to patch this relationship back together again. Yes, it may be likely that your (ex?) partner experienced some things growing up that contributed to the way he handles himself today. But those are his issues to resolve. You cannot save him from himself. And if for whatever reason he will not do what he needs to do in order to heal, all you can do is to decide if this is a relationship that is worth your time attempting to save, if that's even possible. Only you know the answer to that question.