thanks.

our beliefs arent totally different. in fact our views on most things are almost identical. he doesnt like my smoking cigarettes because of the taste and because he associates smoking with bad girlfriends who cheat and are promiscuis because thats his past experience.

so he knows that i feel like. thats why he was so ready to say "if it bothers you i will not do it". the drinking used to bother me too but he has gone months at a time without taking a sip so that im not too concerned about. he just knows that i dont think i could ever see him do a shot or know that hes a done a shot because my experience has been that hard liqour makes people nasty.

and we have talked about how i am jsut assuming he is going to be like my dad and my ex boyfriends which i know he wont. and it has been over 2 years since he has even smoked pot at all. even one hit. so i know hes not going to start back up again,

its not legal anywhere in the u.s. but its decriminalized here so you just get a slap on the wrist.

it might happen soon so ill let you guys know how it went.

thanks again for chiming in. feels better to know that other people feel the same way i do.