That's easy to deal with , invite them all over for Christmas, get the whole gang together ,have drinks and coffee and all the family small talk (that you could probably do without anyway) and don't have a think to eat in the house except a pail of Wise foods dehydrated emergency food, I can tell you the lasagna ain't bad , then next year feed them if they come again and nobody will dare complaint, salt ,no salt they won't care they will just gratefull.and then in years to come maybe the dialog will change to something more valuable like instead of all the petty *****ing that people do maybe showing genuine concern for each other and the sense of community and that each one of you made it through the trials and tribulations of life, to sit around and catch up about what brought you all together and what it took to get you all here safe and together again , that's what's lacking in most holiday get together s but I think I'm too hopefull that humans will become a nicer more caring bunch .think globally act locally and be proactive not Reactive! Just as a side note I prefer a sugar cured ham rather than salt of the tears from the host who realizes the people for dinner are just that here for dinner. Badump bump I'll be here all week folks, so come back again .