Thank you for your replies, it does feel better to know ones not alone... I have no family close by so my husband and I depend on his family to much and I know that... I don't think they realize the importance of their help and how much it really helps my husband and I for reconnecting. A lot of the time it's a struggle to find someone to watch our 16 month old... but the time alone for us means everything to me as well...phones going to die have to plug in brb.