For me witnessing alcohol use is the trigger. I've seen too much violence around the misuse of alcohol that it scares me to see anyone take a drink of anything. If a party starts and people start over drinking.... I'm gone. Not a problem if people light up their bongs. I've yet to see a pot head commit an act of violence or any other crime for that matter and I know a lot of pot heads. People in my world use pot to meditate and smoke pot like cigarettes so its not something I take much issue with at all. I can't say the same for alcohol or for the people I know who use alcohol.

I think our past impacts our attitudes about a lot of things we face everyday. I think it's always wise to put things into our own historic context before we make assumptions and attach broad stereotypes to things as benine as marijiuana.

I also think you are right to be open with your communications with your bf. It's wonderful that you can both be so open and honest and supportive of one another.

I'm not sure what I think about you decided to partake with him. You might just want to observe the first time so that you are sure you have an accurate memory of the event. Like I said... not sure what I think about you partaking.... should be interesting at very least. Second hand effects may be enough for you the first go round.

Look forward to reading your report back.... take care....