My husband is very selfish and we are getting a divorce, but I can't even say his selfishness is the main reason. There's a lot of negative stuff in our relationship and it has not worked for years. But despite this, I still have faith in men! I don't think that they are all like my husband, and the truth is, maybe my husband would do just fine with some other woman. (I wish her well!) I think there are a lot of nice guys out there. My therapist says I "chose" my husband because his behavior patterns are similar to those of significant people in my childhood and this was my psyche's attempt to at last work out those early dysfunctional relationships. It took 20 years, but I am finally working it out. Slow learner....