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"It is not the charm of the therapist that is attractive, but what is attractive about the analytic setting-- being listened to and understood, accepted at our worst, not being exploited, all the qualities, in fact, we look for in a lover."

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This strikes me too. When my dh and I were having problems I had dreams of taking my therapist into my bed. I told her about it cos I was upset at the ideal of taking a woman to bed - she pointed out that dh and I were having problems and I feel safe and understood with her so it was perfectly natural for me to dream about her. 'BUT' she said, 'no way would she ever do that with me.' She helped me see too that dreams like this were not about sex nor was I becoming a lesbian. I felt validated and protected and more attached to her than ever. [/b]</font>