If your father was absent or didn't pay much attention to you as a little girl and your marriage isn't too good, etc. you're probably reflecting that in your relationship with your T. Dreams generally tell us about what issues we're working on unconsciously.

My mother died when I was 3 and I have 3 older brothers. For a year there where I was 3-4 I was in a household of 4 guys :-) Talk about killing your mother and marrying your father! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electra_complex

We're very complex and there's nothing "simple" about transference.