I suspect in your case simply having sex and realising it's Nothing like you imagine might solve the problem, unless you are in the 0.1% who are extremely highly stimulated. Aside from that, getting to know people is always a good way to help see them as more than just a target.
Your post is vague so I don't really know what else to say to you. Maybe if it becomes something that's interfering. With your social interactions you could see a therapist, aside from that maybe some self relief would help take the kettle off the boil.