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Originally Posted by Shadix
I am referring to when people just don't consider you a worthwhile person. Many people will be nice to you, just to feed into the false narrative that they are good people, but they don't actually see you as an equal and don't feel that you are entitled to their kindness. Which is why at any given moment they can say something completely disrespectful and hurtful without warning or hesitation.
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The one thing that bothers me about this post in reply to my question is that it makes a large amount of assumptions here. "people will be nice to you" assumes that they are being anything but genuine. This alone says more about your perceptions and trust in other people than it does stating facts about the general public. It assumes the people being nice are doing so to be good, but are not genuinely good people but manipulative. Which seems to imply that you've been or feel that you have been manipulated probably in the past and possibly repeatedly. Also stating that others don't feel you are entitled to their kindness is another assumption that you know what goes on in others' heads and hearts better than what they portray.
What I see is someone here who has probably genuinely been manipulated and been given good reason not to trust easily what people's motives are. I would be more apt to want to ask YOU questions as to what happened to you to make you believe so little in this society you talk about over and over again in your posts that is judgmental, manipulative, deceitful and is anything but genuine. Something to ask yourself maybe.
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Want to know how people really feel about you? Pay attention to how they talk about others who are similar to you. I know society at large doesn't like me because of the way I see people talking about other socially awkward, cognitively slow males. They can be totally nice to me and it won't matter because I know how they really feel.
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Want to know how others feel about you? ask them. then trust what they say until they prove otherwise. what they say about other people is about other people not about you. I dunno about you but I have never been in an actual conversation where socially awkward, cognitively slow males were the subject anyway. To be honest I'm not even sure I'd know how to recognize that.
Truth is, I have an extremely socially awkward son and myself I am only minimally capable of being social. I am not the outgoing happy go getter that some people are. I find that being in social situations is difficult and nerve wracking but even so, I also know that if I tried to, I have and would be able to find some people that are fine with me as I am.
You can too. but you have to first stop expecting the worst, and judging society as a whole that shuns what you would consider "people like me" kind of thing. yes there are some that do, even many that may judge the introvert unfairly but... 1, 30 or even 200 people does not equate to the whole of society. find new places to meet people and try to trsut that there are at least a few people that will surely befriend you.