if it is gender specific its not their fault.

how do we expect them to act when their whole lives are spent being told that they take what they want, they have to be big and strong, they shouldnt care about people. they are basically brought up to be manly men and manly men are selfish. guys are brought up to not show emotions and then are totally baffled when thats what women want from them. they really are not raised to deal with relationships. They still think that all we want is a bread winner.

If women were raised in the same way Im sure it would be flipped. But women are mostly raise to think about other people, specifically their fathers and husbands. and were also brought up to be nurturing, not selfish. so its kinda nature versus nurture.

plus women can be selfish also but its disguised. we find different justifications for it so it never looks like selfishness.

thank you womens studies 201 lol