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You do have control over it though. You can control your actions and behaviours.
You can't control your skin colour. You can't control where you were born.
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So are you trying to say it is justifiable to disrespect and socially ostracize people for things like social awkwardness and lack of intelligence?
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We all have different starting points when it comes to things such as skills and intelligence. We also all have different ending points for them. But you can improve on them.
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You can improve somewhat on certain things and adjust your outward behaviors, but you cannot change your personality or your innate cognitive abilities. These things are pretty much set in stone. If I could stop being socially awkwardand cognitively slow, I would. But I simply can't. Which is why I believe people should not judge me for these things.
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For example - you can change the way you think about society. Currently you think everyone is out to get you and anyone who is ever kind to you is faking. You can change that, not necessarily easily but you can. That would then make it easier to improve social skills. Therapy can help with that.
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Nope, I don't think people are out to get me, I think people simply do not respect me and look at me with contempt. I based this on the way I see people talking about others like me, especially on the internet. Am I supposed to just ignore this an assume people have nothing but warm, positive feelings towards me? Because that is what I did in the past and I always ended up getting rude awakenings.
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You blame and blame and blame and keep claiming you know for sure what other people think and want. You demand respect but don't respect others.
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Well, it seems to me that it is others who don't respect me yet demand that I respect them. And this is how it has always been. In school I was regularly made fun of and disrespected, yet if I would so much as make a rude gesture towards any of my oppressors, I would be the villain. The rules of basic respect only apply when you are dealing with someone who is your equal.
Like I have mentioned many times before, I am actually very nice and respectful to people and most everyone acknowledges this. And because of this, people usually feel compelled to be nice to me. However, this kindness doesn't mean respect. If you are nice to someone but then go talk behind their back about how dumb or annoying they are, that is not respect and in my opinion it is not behavior that anyone should accept.