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Old Dec 14, 2016, 01:18 PM
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Originally Posted by shattered sanity View Post
this is what we wonder.

has anyone ever (or does anyone now), envy someone else inside?

we envy stacy (our inside therapist)

at least she has some idea of what she wants and seems to enjoy what she does

which is more than can be said for the rest of us who just wish life didn't exist, that we could somehow hide and never be seen.
no none of my alters were jealous / envious of the others. the way my system was set up was each alter had their own way of being, their own jobs purpose reasons for being, how much control they had that kind of thing that is now called sense of agency here in america. we also dont have the type of treatment system where alters are ranked / prioritized as to which alter was best, which alter is more important which ones are better than the others and such things that used to be called polyfragmented here in america. short version here in america all alters are considered to be equal to the others, they are all needed in order to survive other wise they would not have been created, my point even when dealing with therapy issues none of my alters were jealous/ envious of the others. they just were who and what they are and did , though and said things according to what ever their own sense of agency was.

my suggestion is if this continues to be an issue for your system maybe contact your treatment provider. they will be able to help you to discover why your system needed to have an alter who's sense of agency was to be jealous of others for yours and your systems survival of what ever caused you to become DID. once you know what caused this problem you will know what you need to do to control this problem. if you have co consciousness it may just be a simple have an internal conversation explaining how that alter is important and how / what they add to your system that makes them unique but still just as important as the others in your system.