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Originally Posted by MariaLucy
The therapist IS the most important factor in successful therapy. If the therapist has good boundaries, is kind, is steady, is strong, is insightful, is rock solid, is loyal, is ethical, is moral, is professional, is loving, is able to listen and not judge, is compassionate and is well supervised with good CPD and mentoring, then the client might actually improve.
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I don't know how any mortal can live up to this. Nobody is that selfless, patient, nor psychologically and emotionally coherent. If the stereotype of wounded and neurotic therapists has any truth to it, then it's even more unrealistic.
By not declaring their own defects, they imply that they have none. The lack of transparency is a setup for failure and a rude awakening. There is too much secrecy. Seems many therapists are seeking their own corrective experience from their clients, and either do not share this or do not even know it. Therapists need to give a full accounting up front of their true self. They need to present a mental health CV. Otherwise it's a dangerous farce.
The level of risk is not properly acknowledged. The last thing certain people need is to pay someone for help and instead get a dysfunctional and failed relationship that scars them emotionally. What happened to you is just wrong on many levels.