First, I'm so sorry you are going through this miserable experience. I'm really glad that you are reaching out.

It is not selfish to expect your spouse to put you first. My wife and I made a vow that we would forsake all others. That even includes our kids. We put each other over our kids. They exist because of our love, and our love is what sustains them.

That being said, you have no control over your husband. His heart is in the right place. Of course he wants to be there for his friend.

Have you told him how you are feeling? He sounds like he could be a compassion/loving person. Are you worried that that is a selfish thing for you today or perhaps worried that he will see it that way?

((((much hugs))))