Sorry Ubuntu1 I did not reply before now! It`s because I don`t have a computer of my own, so I depend on my local library!

Going back to my fetish! My therapist said to me that maybe when your mum was killed, unawares too me, it did affect to a certain degree and that my aunt was an emotional replacement! And then with the assault that occurred and a short while later my aunt leaving, my mind set could of been searching for an other emotional comfort factor and the underwear (That were left behind by your aunt) may well be the connection!!!
Seems to me very plausible and maybe food for thought!!
Did anything major in your past ever happen too you that could of affected you emotionally??